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Are you a talker or are you a doer?

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My assistant Kelli and I were having a conversation earlier this week about the difference between the two.

Talkers…you know who I am talking about. The people who are always talking about all the great things they are accomplishing, holding court and wielding authority. They are the people telling everyone else how to do it. They talk about spending hours at the gym, but how much of that time was actually spent breaking a sweat, and how much was spent messing around gabbing with everyone? They talk about spending more time with their family, but how many times have they failed to prioritize and allowed “emergencies” to overtake quality time with the people they love? They talk about the cold calls they are going to make, but how often do they let fear of rejection in and talk themselves out of it? They talk about all the great things they are going to accomplish, but time and time again, they throw up a bagel on the follow through. We all are guilty of this at one time or another. No one is perfect, but there are those people who constantly make excuses. Do you ever notice that the talkers usually end up being the know-it-alls? I think they act and talk like they know it all because of their insecurity, and when they talk, they don’t have to DO. Maybe they should stop ranting about how to do it and just take the steps necessary themselves to make it happen.

On the other hand, you have the people who fly under the radar and just get shit done! Doers – you know who I am talking about here, right? They may not be fancy, they are not the flashy ones, and they don’t act like the authority on everything. They do not brag, they do not boast, they do not complain. These people tend to be humble and don’t waste time pontificating on what needs to be done. They already have a clear plan. It is simple with these people. As Nike says, they JUST DO IT! And because they “Just DO IT”, they JUST GET IT!!!!!

So, which one are you? Are you a doer or are you a talker? The challenge for us this week is to look and be honest with ourselves and ask: Which one are we? If you are a doer, great job and keep up the doing! On the other hand if you are a talker, stop and let your actions speak for themselves.

Here is what we all need to do:

  1. Get those dreams and hopes out of our noggin and turn them into written goals on a piece of paper (yes WRITTEN GOALS)
  2. Create a WRITTEN list of activities that you need to do every day/week/month/year to accomplish those goals
  3. Take those activities and put them in your actual schedule (yes you need to have a schedule)
  4. Wake every day, don’t say a word and simply do what your schedule says

Do this and not only will you be a doer, but those dreams and hopes you turned into written goals will soon become accomplishments.

JUST DO IT!


Monday Morning Mojo: 5 Tricks to Achieving Your New Year’s Resolutions

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As we start a New Year this week lets all make a commitment to turn up the heat at least one more degree in 2010 and see what happens.  So many times in life the gap between what we have and what we want seems so far apart, yet most of the time it is not nearly as far apart as we think.  Click here to watch the video and then turn up YOUR heat at least one degree to make 2010 your best year yet!

Here are 5 Simple Tricks to Achieving Your New Year’s Resolutions. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

1. Get specific

A vague goal is as useful as no goal at all. General ideas about what you want give you nothing to work with and nowhere to go. It’s only when you get specific about what you want that the path to success is revealed. Take time to narrow down your resolutions into specific ideas and turn your vague goals into crystal-clear goals.

2. Spread the word

Don’t keep your goals all to yourself. The more you share your goals with others, the more life you give to those goals. It gives them the chance to grow and gain momentum.  So, tell at least two other people about your goals, and be sure not to make the mistake of giving without receiving; spend just as much time listening to ideas as you did in sharing your own.

3. Buddy up

When it comes to living a better life, few things are as powerful or persuasive as a living, breathing human being.  Books, tapes, etc. can help you along, but nothing can compare to one-on-one interaction.  The buddy system is one of the most effective goal-achievement tools you can use. By partnering with a goal-seeker, you’ll have all the support you need to achieve anything you set your mind to.

4. Burn the bridge

While preparing his next book, a famous writer listed his weight at fifty pounds lighter than reality. Not only that, but he did so knowing full well that only months after publication he would be paraded in front of thousands of his biggest fans. Why?  To burn the bridge of easy escape. He knew he needed to lose the weight, but he also knew he would give up on the goal without any pressure to follow through. By promising his public a fifty-pound weight loss, he had no choice but to achieve the goal.  What steps can you take today to burn the bridge of an easy escape and commit yourself to living a better life?

5. Do something – NOW

As they say, there’s no better time than the present, and when it comes to living a better life, they couldn’t be more right.  The true power of taking one small step comes not in the small step of progress you’ll make, but in the act of doing something about the things you want.  As you know, getting started is often the most difficult part of the process. Millions of people dream, but few actually ever take action…and that is why it is critical that you do something today. Think of one small step you can take right now that will bring you closer to accomplishing your goal and once you have it in mind, DO IT! Don’t think about it, don’t consider it – JUST DO IT NOW!


Monday Morning Mojo: It Sucks To Be Normal

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Are you an average Joe or average Jane?  I sure hope not, because average or “normal” in America today sucks!

Here are just a few things that are considered normal in America today -

  • The average American household carries nearly $11,000 in credit card debt. That sucks.
  • 63% of Americans are over weight and over 31% of Americans (nearly 90,000,000 people) are obese (that has tripled in the last 20 years.)  Nearly half a million people die each year from obesity related illnesses. That sucks!!! Want to find out where you are at? Use this BMI Calculator (Body Mass Index). If your number is not what you like, don’t start making excuses such as “it can’t be right”, “I have big bones”, “it’s my genes”, “it does not apply to my body type” or any other crap you will brainwash yourself with to make you think it is okay.  Even though it is normal, it is not okay.
  • Over 43% of marriages end in divorce (they say that percentage is climbing and may be as high as 50% today). I think a big part of the reason the divorce rate is so high is because we are “normal” at everything else in our life and normal sucks?   So, because our life is normal, it leads to our marriage being normal and we know what normal is – right?  It sucks.
  • There are 49 counties in the world where the people have a longer average life expectancy than Americans. We live in America the greatest country in the world and we are number 50?!? Some say our children’s average life expectancy may be the first in history that will be less than their parents.  That sucks. Why?  Because our children are watching us and doing what we are doing.
  • Over 55% of people in America suffer from high blood pressure and over 300,000 people each year die from it.  That sucks.

Unfortunately because the majority of people in America are ‘normal’ (or average) it has become our measuring-stick to measure our lives by. What we measure ourselves against “sucks” so compared to the masses we look fine. However, for people whose life is “normal” or average, guess what?  Their life is not all that great, but they just don’t know it.  If someone is normal they are probably one or more of these – overweight, broke, addicted, divorced, depressed, unhappy, stressed out and God only knows what else.  It is all they know, so they don’t know what it could be like.  Now don’t get all bummed out if you are thinking I am normal.  The great part is we can do something about it.

It all starts with the first step – start spending more time with people who aren’t normal or average. Think about it, if all of the people you are spending your time with are like you, do you think you are going to change?  NOT. On the other hand, do you think if you hang out with people who are achieving more than the average, you might learn by their examples and achieve more than the average? You bet.

So, why isn’t this a natural behavior? Because when we spend time with people achieving more than us, it makes us uncomfortable and it exposes us. This forces us to acknowledge our weaknesses and forces us to improve and improving requires us to get uncomfortable and change.   You see, we want to spend time with people that make us feel comfortable, feel good about our life that is what is natural and easy.  When we spend time with people like us it makes it all okay that we are the way we are that we are a “Normal Joe” or a “Normal Jane”.

Something to remember – we will very rarely achieve 10% above or 10% below the average of our five best friends. The five people we spend the majority of our time with in all areas of our life.  So be careful who you are spending YOUR time with.  Don’t get too comfortable, because comfortable is typically “normal,” and “normal” sucks!

Don’t be “normal,” be exceptional and have a kick ass life!


Monday Morning Mojo: Accountability Drives Us to Reach Our Goals

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Money, work, health, your weight, your life – everything expands to meet the resources available.  Have you ever noticed how that works?  It’s easy to give you examples, because it happens to all of us every day:

It is April 15th tax day, how is it that we get our taxes done and delivered to the Post Office that evening just before they close?  Was there no time available in the three and a half months prior?  It’s all because we have a deadline.

Have you ever noticed that so many of us diet, lose weight, and eventually gain the weight back?  Next time you lose weight try cleaning out your closet, purging all the clothes that are too big, giving you no easy way to expand back into them.  Removing the easy option makes it hard to go back to your old ways, and gives you a defined line in which to not cross.

Why is it no matter how much money we make it never seems to be enough?  Our expenses are expanding to meet our incomes.  Watch out for this situation, it’s a dangerous place to be.

Isn’t the final two minutes of a football game the most exciting? Often teams that struggled to make a touchdown the entire game come through to score during the final moments?  They have a deadline that defines the game, they either will win or lose – they have no options.

No matter where we are in life, we always feel like we don’t have enough time – in high school, then in college, as we start our career, after we get married, and especially after we have kids.  Not only are we able to accomplish more and more during each stage in life, but when we reflect back, we wonder what we did with all the free time we had in the previous stage of our life. The time you take to accomplish anything in life will expand or reduce to meet the amount of time you give it.

The lesson is, with deadlines we are forced into action. There is no more time for procrastination and you just do it because you have to. Somehow we all need to figure out a way to create our own self imposed deadlines, getting us ahead early in the game as opposed to the last two minutes. What has worked for me is to create mini deadlines on my goals and then share those deadlines with someone I know will hold me to them. This is accountability. Granted, it adds uncomfortable pressure to our lives. Yet the reality is, if you want to have freedom and success you need to have accountability and discipline. They go hand in hand.

Make it a GREAT week.


Monday Morning Mojo: Conquering the gap between here and there

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I am here. I want to get there. But the gap is so wide it is overwhelming.

Have you ever felt like that? I know I sure have and quite frankly it feels like it is almost be too much to even deal with at times.  We can feel this way about our job, our health, our faith, our finances, our relationships.  I will bet all of us have at least one area of our life where we are dealing with this right now.

So, what are we to do?  Throw in the towel and say screw it, it’s just too hard, or what? No way.

We are an instant gratification society and therein lies part of our problem.  We want it now. Texting, email, internet, downloading music, you name it. We can have most things we want in seconds today. Unfortunately, for the most important things in life there is no quick fix, no quick solution, no text, email, or website.

It takes time. It takes discipline. It takes accountability.

So, here is our challenge.  Quit wasting time looking for the instant gratification solution and get to work on chipping away at it.  It’s like this: If you want to get fit and healthy but have been eating like crap for years and not exercised in decades it is not going to happen overnight. Heck it is not going to happen in days or weeks.  Accept the fact that it is going to take months, or perhaps years to accomplish it.  And in the end, to maintain it, we will need to stick with it for a lifetime.

The key is to start small. Ride 20 minutes on the bike 3 times a week.  Then build on that bit by bit over time. After a few months you will get up to 60 minutes+, 5 times a week+…  Then with discipline, accountability, consistency and time, you will experience the breakthrough you are looking for.

It works this way for anything worthwhile in life. No matter what it is we are trying to accomplish in life remember the metaphor of starting with just 20 minutes, 3 times a week on the bike.  Not an hour, not 7 days a week.  Just start small and build on it over time.  Because if we really want it and if we stick with it, we will be amazed at we can accomplish…we will bridge that huge gap and get there.

Be passionate, but be patient and make it a powerful week.

Go BIG!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO: Give to get, give to get

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Here is the ticket to get whatever it is you want in your life.

Help others who want what you’ve got get it. When helping others get what you’ve got it holds you to a higher standard and level of accountability. You will sense a tremendous amount of responsibility to set the example and be the pace setter.  As they start to get what you’ve got, it will push you to take it to the next level so you can stay one step ahead getting you closer to what you want.

This applies to all areas of your life: Physical health and nutrition, faith, financial, business, Family, etc.

You’ve got to give to get. It is the law of life.  It is so simple that it’s hard for most people to believe.

Make it a powerful week!!!