Posts Tagged ‘believe in yourself’

Wednesday Wellness: Focus On What You Want

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When we are trying to better ourselves, or at least learn something new, where do we turn for information and inspiration? Possibly a book, a CD, a mentor perhaps.

This past weekend I was trying to improve technique (remember last week’s wellness?) and I found myself getting impatient, frustrated and (gasp) negative! I was thinking about the tools I have learned in my sport, the coaches’ advice and the support of my husband, yet the frustration mounted and my mind went to a down-beat spiral.

I decided to take a little alone time and work through my mindset. Again, I kept thinking of what I was doing and what I didn’t want to do any longer.

That was IT! I was thinking about what I did NOT want. I was focused on the NOT instead of what I DID want!

Words came into my head, like “strength,” “power,” “fearless,” and I quickly started to feel better.

However, there was still a little something I was disconnected from, something I still wasn’t working through, or hadn’t quite grasped. Again, I thought about all the advice I was given and then I started to realize my greatest teacher and support starts in my own mind. The words and emotions we tell ourselves are the catalyst to listening to the words others speak and the actions shown. We can be coached, loved, supported, and believed in (which is vital and necessary); however at the beginning, middle and end of the day, it’s the tiny voice in our mind which can strengthen those sentiments and words, or tear them apart.

I am writing these moments before I am about to try my sport again. I know what I want, I appreciate how I am supported and I realize what I can do, because of how I am supported and how I talk to myself.

Whatever you are moving through, however you want to get there, remember the words you tell yourself will unmistakably get you closer to or further away from what you want to achieve. Believe it; and then believe in yourself!


Thursday’s Thoughts on Leadership: High Expectations Lead to High Performance

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Leaders know high expectations lead to high performance. Leaders know that the more people believe in themselves, and their leaders believe in them, the more they will accomplish – at all levels. To ensure that people achieve their best, leaders have to take steps to bring forth the best from others. The first step is setting an expectation of high standards, which then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Successful leaders have high expectations, both of themselves and of their charges. It is amazing to see how people react when high expectations are placed on them. If we expect them to succeed, they probably will.

Bob Moles, who has always played a large role in my professional development and success, has always driven me by expecting my absolute best. He expected me to succeed. Where his expectations aligned with my determination and my performance, success followed. Those expectations became my own standard of success and thus they became my own expectations.

I used that as a foundation to set high expectations for everyone at Intero based on the expectations I have of myself. Leaders have to show the way. They cannot point in a direction and ask you to go, they have to take the first steps and ask you to follow. A leaders’ expectations are credible only if they are a reflection of their own record of achievement and dedication, and daily demonstrations of what and how things need to be done.

Leaders recognize the impact of self-fulfilling prophecies. Leaders treat people in a way that bolsters their self confidence, making it possible to achieve more than they may have initially believed possible of themselves.  The German writer Goethe, once penned the line, “Treat a man as he is, he will remain so. Treat a man the way he can be and ought to be, and he will become as he can be and should be.” Success starts with leaders with the vision to set high expectations, it is reached by individuals with the drive to prepare and work hard enough to reach them.