Posts Tagged ‘Discipline’

Thoughts on Leadership | Leaders Know How to Attract Attention

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To accomplish anything in life as a leader, you’re likely going to need help from other people. Regardless of how talented or accomplished you are, you can’t always assume that you can count on attracting and retaining the attention of others. It will be more and more challenging and rewarding to hold onto the attention of those who matter to you.

Attention provides leverage. The more people leaders can attract and motivate to join them on a challenging quest or initiative, the more impact they are likely to achieve. So, what are effective ways to attract and retain the kind of attention that helps leaders to address the challenges they face? Here are four steps that build on each other.

1. Embrace mystery - Frame the more difficult problems that are relevant to you and need to be solved. Help people to understand why these are such significant problems and why so many people have been unsuccessful in trying to solve them. It probably will not attract the people looking for easy answers, but it can attract those who are naturally curious and looking for stimulating challenges.

2. Focus inquiry – Don’t try to suggest answers. Frame interesting questions instead. Help people gain perspective by posing questions that intrigue and motivate them to start investigating the mysteries that lie ahead.

3. Excite the imagination – Provide some “what if?” scenarios to illustrate the possibilities that await those who manage to come up with creative answers. Paint the pictures but make it clear these are only pictures. Stimulate people to pursue the questions with a lot of energy and creativity.

4. Be authentic – If you are not genuinely engaged in addressing these problems yourself, you will not be able to sustain the attention and effort of others to come up with creative solutions. On the other hand, if you are on a quest yourself, leading by example, you could have a contagious effect and the encounters you have can help both sides to learn from each other.

Do these techniques actually work? Well, think of how Martin Luther King excited and mobilized a broad group of people to tackle some very challenging social problems. On a completely different level, one leading tech company in Silicon Valley regularly attracts the attention of the venture capital community by sharing its most difficult technology problems and suggesting that they would buy the start-ups that come up with creative solutions to these problems. Or look at the way professional astronomers have mobilized a global network of passionately engaged amateurs to learn more about the vast universe beyond this planet.

This kind of attention is priceless and powerful. All leaders need to find ways to generate it and harness it. This is not just an opportunity, but increasingly an unavoidable obligation. Leaders are all experiencing increasing economic pressure as individuals and institutions. In this kind of environment, leaders not only need leverage, but also need to more rapidly improve their performance.

Leaders get better faster by working with others. To do this, they first need to attract their attention. If they fail to attract that attention, they will not get better faster in an increasingly competitive global economy, and they could be overlooked. That is why attention is becoming more valuable at the same time that it is becoming rare.


Wednesday Wellness | Practice Perfect Technique.

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Bonnie Kathleen Blair (born March 18, 1964 in Cornwall, New York) is a retired American speed skater. She is one of the top skaters of her time, and one of the most decorated athletes in Olympic history. Blair competed for the United States in four Olympics, and in her Olympic career won five gold medals and one bronze medal.

Once interviewed, she indicated she never trained for power or speed, but technique.  If she perfected her technique, then when race day came, she always knew she would skate her best.

In our daily habits, are we perfecting our technique, or are we always hoping to win the race, by being faster and stronger at any cost?

I’ve learned that when we push hard to “win” we usually compromise safety and often can injure ourselves at a devastating cost.

If we can tighten up our finesse, our technique by how we train, such as running in better alignment with our body, or slowing down our yoga practice to stretch our muscles safely instead of “pushing” the pose, or even fine tuning our “practice” of how we order our meals at restaurants, then we will get into such a rhythm of technique that when “race day” comes, everything else will fall into line safely and efficiently.

Since I learned this “mantra” of Bonnie Blair, I have given great thought to how I train when I water ski, cycle, workout with my trainer and when I practice yoga.  It was a powerful statement for me to train a different way…in all areas of my life.  I hope this can offer you some insight to your daily habits as well and as some say… “slow down to speed up”!


Thoughts on Leadership: How to Turn Failure into Success

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“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career; I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over in my life. And that’s why I succeed.”
-Michael Jordan, 2006

Failure. We all experience it. Most of us see failure as a negative thing, which makes sense; it doesn’t feel good to fail. We all want to succeed and failure feels like a setback to that goal. What we don’t realize is that failure presents an opportunity to learn, grow and succeed. Check out Michael Jordan’s “Failure” Nike Commercial.

Michael Jordan is a fun example to look at. When most people think about this basketball legend, they’re not immediately thinking about how he didn’t make the varsity basketball team his sophomore year in high school. They’re not thinking about the times he lost the game-winning shot. They’re thinking about his achievements: six-time NBA champion, five-time MBA MVP, 14-time NBA All-Star, two-time NBA Slam Dunk Contest winner, Sports Illustrated Sportsman of the Year.

Michal Jordan’s success was real. People like to say that he was born a “gifted” basketball player, that Mark Zuckerburg was born a technology genius, and that Martin Luther King was a born leader. What we fail to realize, though, is that none of these successes were born that way. No one is born to play basketball, create a social media phenomenon, or to be a legendary leader.

Turning failure into success is hard work. It takes dedication and vision. When I was a brand new realtor my first coach Tom Hopkins taught me an important philosophy on failure and rejection that has resonated throughout my entire real estate career. He said “I never see failure as failure, but only as a learning experience. I never see failure as failure, but only as the feedback I need to change course in my direction. I never see failure as failure, but only as an opportunity to improve my sense of humor. I never see failure as failure, but only as an opportunity to practice my techniques and perfect my performance. I never see failure as failure, but only as the game I must play to win!”

Learn from some of the greatest champions on earth how to take the reigns and turn losses into wins – adapted from Adam Appleson’s book, “7 Steps to Turn ‘Failure’ Into Success:”

  1. Grin and bear it.
    When Michael Jordan came across rejection, he met it by practicing more.
  2. Take a time-out.
    The greatest ideas were founded when men and women were away from their usual routines. Albert Einstein was on vacation in the Apennine Mountains when we wondered what would happen if a ray of light became imprisoned.
  3. Assess whether your current plans are realistic.
    If things aren’t happening as fast as you’d anticipated, by the deadline you set for yourself, the deadline may not have been realistic. Don’t be afraid to make new plans and pursue them.
  4. Get support.
    Have a team behind you to get you through the rough times and keep you motivated!
  5. Play a game called “15 Ways…”
    Grab a sheet of paper and brainstorm 15 ways you can overcome whatever obstacle is standing between you and your goals. The first five are usually pretty obvious, but the last 10 are usually a bit harder to come up with, and often surface the innovative solutions you hadn’t thought about already.
  6. Pick a hero.
    Every time you fail and want to give up, ask yourself what your hero would do, then go do it!
  7. Go out and execute every day.
    Commit to doing one thing for your dreams every day. You know the saying, “genius is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.”

True leaders do not fear failure; they know how to use failure to their advantage. Like Michael Jordan said, he has failed over and over again, and that is why he succeeds. Take chances and don’t be afraid to fail, it could be the secret to your success!


Wednesday Wellness: The Mentally Tough Shall Prevail…

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What differentiates someone who succeeds in life versus one who doesn’t? Luck? Genes? Money? Well, maybe for some, but I believe that those who are the “toughest” are the ones who ultimately succeed.

Now, when I say tough, I’m not referring to physical strength. Rather, I’m talking about mental toughness, or mental fortitude. Fortitude is defined by Webster’s Dictionary as “Calm Courage”, and it takes a great deal of “calm courage” to succeed–whether it is on the physical playing field, or the playing field of life.

There are some people who are innately strong–both physically and mentally. Take the Tarahumara Tribe of Indians, who are known to run for days on end, in the grueling heat, traversing treacherous landscapes as a way of life, and as a way to have “fun.” Can you hear me laughing out loud? Yup. This is indeed fun for them, and they live their lives to run and run to live. In fact, Christopher Mc Dougall wrote a book about this band of people called, “Born to Run.”

But what about the rest of us, the mere mortals who find running two miles, or even two blocks, a daunting task? What makes us different than the Tarahumara?

Well, it turns out that the only thing that separates us is our mental fortitude. Indeed, these calm people run because they are not just physically strong, but they are MENTALLY strong. And we can all glean a HUGE lesson from this.

We all face challenges in life–some of us want to lose weight; some want to run our first marathon, 10K, 5K or simply walk a mile; some want to gain upper body strength; and some want to come back from injuries–ranging from near-crippling to something perhaps more simple like a sprained ankle. Whatever your particular challenge may be, in order to overcome it will require not just strength of body, but strength of mind.

Why is this so?

For me, I spent nearly 10 years racing endurance events ranging from mere marathons to Ironman distance triathlons–a 2.4 mile swim, a 112 mile bike ride, and a 26.2 mile run, or a marathon. And yes, they were all in one day. And yes, they all followed each other sequentially. And yes, we “raced” to finish–we competed not simply completed. And how did we do it? We persevered.

From these years, I learned that I have far more fortitude than I ever thought I had. There were many times when I “beat” men and women who were stronger than me physically, but not stronger mentally–I never, ever gave up or give up. And I have carried this very important lesson into other areas of my life, so that when I tore my Achilles and chose not to run for a year (after much agony), and even when I’ve faced financial adversity, or break-ups or the loss of loved ones, I’ve KNOWN that I have enough “strength” to get through anything, because I will not give up. I have that calm courage.

The truth is, we all have that calm courage. Sometimes, we just don’t realize that we have it and that we can use it ANYTIME we want.

How do we persevere? Just like how we finish a marathon–by putting one foot in front of the other. Over and over and over again….You can do IT, whatever IT is. Simply call upon that calm courage and persevere. And I guarantee you, you will succeed.

Written by Stacia Carney
CPT Body Firm Los Gatos, CA


Review your goals before moving forward.

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Here is a great question…Where will you be in ten years from now if you keep going the way you are going?  Reflect for a moment on last week and ask yourself this question…”if I do exactly what I did last week, every week for the next 10 years where will I be personally…professionally…spiritually…in my relationships with those I love and care about the most…how will my health be…what will my bank account look like in 10 years from today?

So many people fail to realize that success at anything in life is the result of little successes achieved over a very long period of time.  Truly successful people are long-term thinkers.  They know that they must build upon each achievement and constantly learn new and better ways of doing things.  A regular review of your progress is essential part of goal setting.   A goal is a little more than a wish unless it has a timetable for completion.  Make sure your plan for your life includes short, medium and long term goals.  Revise your goals as things change…check them off when they are completed and set new bigger goals for yourself as you grow.  And take time to reflect often to make sure you are on the right track.

Make it a GREAT week!!!!


Monday Mojo: The Answer to the Bazillion Dollar Questions is….

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Everyone threw in $50 and the winner will get over $1,000, second place about $600 and third place will get about $400.

We are a little over half way through a 3 month Biggest Loser Contest with a group of about 50 people at Intero. Everyone started out awesome and we lost over 300 pounds in the first few weeks as a group, but then it happened, the nastiest, most insidious disease in the world hit many people in the group – complacency.  As the novelty wore off and complacency started to creep in, the pounds stopped coming off as quickly. Then in some cases the pounds started to creep back on. Many, just threw in the towel and stopped doing their weekly weigh-ins and called it quits. Why couldn’t they stick with it? Why could they do it for a few weeks, but not for a few months or better yet a lifetime? That is the biggest question in life. That is the bazillion dollar question. WHY??

We are an instant gratification society and unfortunately if we don’t get what we want quickly most of us do not have the discipline to do what is necessary for the long haul. That is why the top 2 to 5 percent at almost anything in life end up with the majority of the results/prize. They are the ones who understand the power of the slight edge. They are the ones who have the discipline to fight off complacency.

Unfortunately almost anything worthwhile in life does not happen instantly. It is the ability to stick the course for the long term, long after most others around you have called it quits and thrown in the towel.  This action creates the massive breakthroughs/results.

Now there are a several people who have inspired us all in The Biggest Loser by kicking the crap out of complacency and have kept up their commitment and hard work. A couple of those great examples are Kelli Dixon who has lost over 12% of her body weight in about 8 weeks and looks amazing. Then there is Tom Hasco who has lost over 14% of his body weight. He says we have saved his life.  I can tell they both feel awesome. They actually have a glow about them I have never seen before.  It is INSPIRING! Kelli and Tom along with several others have answered the bazillion dollar question – they are not only the ones who are experiencing the results, but they are the ones who are going to win the prize.

The most important thing you can do to be a winner and fight off complacency with anything in life is to make sure you are spending the majority of your time with other winners and people who are incredibly discipline and positive. Spend the majority of your time with people who have what you want because we are going to be like the people we spend the majority of our time with.

Remember the key to success at anything in life is not how you start, but it is how you finish.

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Thoughts on Leadership: The Golden Rule for Leaders

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The Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” is one of the first things we learn as children. It turns out that this recommended approach of consideration, dignity of purpose and concern for fellow people, when practiced consistently, pays off.

For leaders, the Golden Rule is more than a recommended practice. It’s a requirement.

In “Lead or Get Off the Pot! The Seven Secrets of a Self-made Leader,” Pat Croce explains: “The magnitude of the Golden Rule’s importance is complemented by its simplicity of execution. All you have to do, really, is think of how you would like to be treated in any given situation, and then act accordingly.”

It sounds simple, but experience will show that practicing the Golden Rule is quite difficult. To overcome this it’s important to try consistently. Make it a part of your everyday behavior.

Embrace the Golden Rule as your philosophy and practice the “Ten Commandments of Service.” Croce says “It will take hard work and discipline to make these commandments important in your own life but they will bring satisfying results once you do. Not only will you firmly establish your leadership position in the minds of your staff, family and friends, but you will be setting an example for those who share your vision.”

Here they are:

  1. Hello…and good-bye: These two touch points are central to customer service. Your greeting and your send-off will have a definite impact on your customer’s decision to return.
  2. First-name basis: Calling people by name is a guaranteed way to make them feel important.
  3. Listen, listen, listen: Listening is the most accurate, quickest and most effective way to understand people.
  4. Communicate clearly: Be clear and concise whether you’re giving orders or taking them. Allow no room for misunderstandings or miscommunication.
  5. Be neat, clean and fit: Your appearance is the first impression you’re going to make in every new situation.
  6. Be prompt and professional: How you treat time reveals more about you to others than any of the words you say when explaining why you were late.
  7. Be positive: When you control your thoughts, you have a better chance of controlling your world.
  8. Give compliments: Everyone wants to feel valued, appreciated and important.
  9. Have fun: A sense of humor will make any difficult situation better.
  10. Do it now: Always have a sense of urgency to serve others and the rewards will come back to you with equal speed.

What are you waiting for?

Right now is the best time to lead the charge and check off one more action steps toward the realization of your vision. No matter how you serve your staff members, family members, friends and customers, your reputation will develop based on your actions and your character. Apply this 10-point strategy to all your business activities and even to your everyday life. It will not fail you.


Thoughts on Leadership: Discipline takes you from good to great

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Being good at leadership is not “good enough,” as many leaders think. An extraordinary leader expects more. The legendary artist Michaelangelo once said, “The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.”

Many “good” leaders fall short because they don’t believe that they are capable of achieving superstar performance levels. They believe that extraordinary leaders are born with certain qualities. They see amazing leadership much like they view a professional musician as having innate talents.

What they fail to realize is that talent – natural or not – is not what determines who will become an extraordinary leader or incredible musician. The real difference between a good leader and an extraordinary one lies in discipline. It’s much the same with music – research and evidence show that professional musicians are as good as they are because they have practiced more and had the interest and discipline to do it.

But what is discipline really? Merriam-Webster defines discipline as “training that is expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement.”

By this definition, discipline is essential to an effective organizational process. Discipline begins at the top and works its way down.

Many young leaders go through a learning period in which they undergo training and personal coaching to become more effective. Once they gain experience, that same discipline is necessary to improve leadership among the team.

Most extraordinary leaders pursue their goals with controlled intent. They maintain discipline in order to stay focused in any situation.

In, “The Handbook for Leaders: 24 Lessons for Extraordinary Leadership,” John H. Zenger and Joseph Folkman discuss three ways to stay disciplined and help improve leadership qualities:

  • Push for improvement from everyone: Understand that it’s important that everyone improve on some level.
  • Take an interest: Become a perceptive observer of extraordinary leadership and model after these qualities.
  • Practice – don’t play – at leadership: Extraordinary leaders keep their focus and continue to build skills long after they achieve an adequate level of performance.

If you embrace this concept, that each of you can be an extraordinary leader with great discipline, then you will understand that good is not enough when better is possible.


Monday Mojo: Quantum Leap

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Is what you are doing today building on what you did yesterday or are you starting from scratch…again? So often we jump from one thing to another, but never get any significant results – never getting ahead. Why? Because we are spreading ourselves too thin.

Success in achieving almost anything in life is not going to be the result of jumping from one thing to another. It is going to be the compounded result of doing only the most important activities over and over again and by taking on fewer activities more frequently. If we do those few, most important activities consistently over and over again, at some point we reach the tipping point and we will explode into a quantum leap. It’s all about K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple Stupid. Getting what we want in life is not complicated, but it is difficult. It involves doing the important activities, not the urgent ones. The difficult part is being disciplined enough to do those important, not the urgent activities consistently and doing them over and over again until we have a breakthrough.

Why is it so hard? Because we have to do it over and over for long periods of time with what appears to be little or no results. But if we have the discipline to stick with it, all of a sudden, one day we will have a radical breakthrough. The hard part is not to quit when we feel like we are running into a brick wall with no results; the hard part is not quitting when we are having a breakdown. Because when the wall comes down, it won’t come down one brick at a time, but the accumulation affect of hitting it over and over again will bring it tumbling down all at once. It will happen when we are exhausted and beyond wanting to quit. We will hit it again and BANG!!!!

Consider this: Let’s pretend that each individual activity we do in life is represented by one piece of paper. Stacked up on top of each other, a stack of 50 pieces of paper will only be ¼ of an inch high. Unfortunately, the quantum leap never happens. Why? Because there is not accumulation affect, no compounding. Now imagine instead that we only have one huge piece of paper and we fold the piece of paper in half 50 times. This represents our most important activities we do over and over again. If we were to fold a piece of paper 50 times (if this were physically possible, which of course it is not) the paper will be high enough to almost reach the sun! Now that’s a quantum leap!

Do the important, not the urgent activities and make it a great week!


Monday Mojo: It’s Important, Not Urgent

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One of the things we really focus on doing at Intero is making a conscious decision every day to spend our time doing the important and not the urgent.  Most of people spend the majority of their lives running around like a chicken with their head cut off jumping from one thing to another dealing with all of the urgent crap in life.  But you know what?  The urgent stuff is typically nothing more than the important stuff we procrastinated on doing and now if it doesn’t get done something is going to blow up! Guess what – it’s urgent.

It’s important that we exercise and eat right every day.  If we don’t, when we get 50 to 100 pounds overweight, and our blood pressure and cholesterol are through the roof, it will be urgent that we take care of ourselves so we don’t keel over and have a heart attack, or worse.

It is important that we spend quality time with our family, every day.  If we don’t, it will become urgent one day when we come home and they are gone.

It is important to constantly be embracing change and innovation.  If not, one day we will wake up and the world will have past us by and we will be frantically trying to catch up.  Change and innovation will become urgent.

I know the urgent will always pull at us, but the key is to have the discipline to stick to doing the important and we will be successful at whatever we do.  It’s Important, not Urgent.
Make it a GREAT week!