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Monday Mojo: Burning Desire

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How is it that two people with the exact same God given talents can do exactly the same activities, but one excels beyond all measure and one fails?

We see it in sports all of the time. For example we will see two great wide receivers enter the NFL out of college. The expectations by all of the analysts and professionals are for them to be both superstars. They both get drafted in the first round, go through training camp and make it through their first few seasons. Then one gets cut and the other goes on to becoming an MVP and ultimately gets inducted into the Hall of Fame. Why?

As I mentioned last week, one of the most important keys to success is having a system, a schedule and then being disciplined enough to hold yourself accountable to do whatever it takes to follow your system/schedule. There are a lot of great books out there on the benefits of accountability, scorekeeping for success, tracking your activities, etc. Heck, if you want to lose weight and go to Weight Watchers, Nutrasystem, or one of the other weight loss programs out there, monitoring and tracking your exercise and what you eat is the key to success. Why is it then that this works for some, but not for MOST? Of course it’s because some follow the system and most don’t…most cheat. Why?

Why do MOST cheat and not succeed and others stick with it? Weight loss in every case is really a life or death decision…right? It may not be immediately obvious, but we know those who are overweight have a higher probability of disease…cancer, heart disease, diabetes, etc. Now, if life or death is not enough motivation to hold someone accountable to doing what they need to do, what will? What causes one wide receiver to get cut and one to become an MVP?

BURNING DESIRE

Let’s talk first about what Burning Desire isn’t. It isn’t fear of failure, desperation, someone forcing you to do what you need to do, or doing something for someone else. It is not casual, easy going, waiting, hoping, etc…

So, what is Burning Desire? It is a drive deep, deep, deep down inside of EVERYONE of us that will motivate us and gets us excited, thrilled and fired up beyond measure about the possibilities. It is that thing that gets you so excited you wish you didn’t have to take the time to sleep.

Unfortunately, in many people it is covered by year upon years of complacency, vulnerability, discouragement, and believing we are a victim. Burning desire is the drive to do what needs to be done even when you don’t want to do it. It is passion, enthusiasm, love…it is POWER!!!!!!!!

What is the key to unlocking our Burning Desire? Unfortunately there is no one master key that opens up that lock for everyone. Every lock is different and it is up to each of us individually to find our key. I would recommend spending time every single day praying, focusing, visualizing and working on discovering what your Burning Desire is. The first step is to start looking. It will not happen overnight, but when you find it, it will be like someone lifted 1,000 pounds off of your shoulders. You will feel like you can fly.

Remember Jennifer’s story Opposite George in Monday Morning MOJO from a few weeks ago? She found her burning desire. Read it again if you don’t remember… Opposite George

Go get um!!!!!!


Monday Mojo: The Four Addictions

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Did you know there are four addictions which stop us from living an extraordinary life?

  1. Our addiction to the opinions of other people
  2. Our addiction to the past
  3. Our addiction to food
  4. Our addiction to drugs and alcohol

The real interesting thing is our addiction to the past, our addiction to food, and our addiction to drugs & alcohol are all caused because of our addiction to the opinions of others. So, the key to having an extraordinary life is simply eliminating our addiction to the opinions of others. It’s what holds us back from really going for it. Because when we are addicted to the opinion of others we are afraid of failure and making a fool of ourselves, which in turn stops us from taking risks and doing the things necessary in order to have the kick ass life we want. So, screw it. Who cares what they think? Go for it!

To beat this addiction I tell myself over and over every day “What you think of me is none of my business.” That way I am not holding back and worrying about it. The more we tell ourselves this, the less we will be held captive by the four addictions which stop us from having the kick ass life we deserve.

Screw what other people think – it is none of our business. Go for it and have an EXTRAORDINARY life!


Thursday’s Thoughts on Leadership: Leaders Understand – Failure is a Part of Success

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Most of us have heard the story of Thomas Edison failing his way to success in the invention of the light bulb.

He literally failed 10,000 times before getting it right.

If Edison had said, “I am a failure. My idea is bad, my work is misguided, my mission is lost,” the world would be a much darker place. Of course, what he did do was learn from the failures, made changes, and tried again.

Bingo.

Early in my real estate career I seriously was considering quitting the business. I struggled greatly for my first deal. Then out of the blue a friend called and said he wanted to move. I said to myself, “OK, I will get out of the real estate business after I close this one deal.” That deal led to another and another and pretty soon there was no looking back.

One year later I had closed 52 deals!

Here is what I have learned: when you have a setback – losing a big sale, being passed over for a career-making promotion, even getting fired – allow yourself a short time to grieve, then get right back up on your horse and plan your next move.

The great coach Bill Walsh, in his book “The Score Takes Care of Itself,” recounts how close he came to quitting in the second season as 49er head coach, hitting rock bottom after a crushing loss to the Miami Dolphins. He spent part of a transcontinental flight experiencing an emotional meltdown.

Sixteen months later, the San Francisco 49ers became world champions, defeating the Cincinnati Bengals 26-21 in Super Bowl XVI at the Silver Dome in Pontiac, Michigan.

A football dynasty was in the works. The 49ers won five Super Bowls over fourteen years.

Thomas Edison and Bill Walsh both understood that failure is an integral part of success. We would do well to follow their lead.


Wednesday Wellness: Trying Something New

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Often in my Wednesday Wellness articles I write about what I see and observe during the week.  I am inspired, almost daily, by someone or something within the routine of what I do.  This past week I’ve noticed a rising number of people who, when they are approaching a workout regiment, are nervous, scared and intimidated.

I realize starting anything new can be daunting, but what I find fascinating is that out of the 8 or so new clients I’ve recently met, they are all very unsure of their potential.  In fact, they set themselves up to fail or to allow themselves to fail.  They are comparing themselves to others and feeling as though they are the only ones who feel they can’t do it.

The irony here is that all 8 feel as though they are the only ones who can’t, but in reality they all CAN, just in their own way.  Who is to say one of us is better than the other at anything?  We all (me too) get so caught up in comparing ourselves to others that we hone in our insecurities and shortcomings.

Since I have the unique pleasure of meeting so many people and being a sounding board for this diversity, I can say with all confidence that we are our own worst critic.

My message here is simple: let go of what you think you cannot do, what you might feel afraid of or what you think someone will judge you as. Take a leap of faith as though no one is noticing your shortcomings and DO IT!  I bet if you pause for a moment, you know someone who is always up for anything and that person is the light that brightens every room!  THAT is what I am truly inspired by…the people who are willing try something new; no matter how they do it!