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Monday Mojo: Make the final two minutes count

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I was watching a little football over this Thanksgiving weekend and it’s interesting how two teams can play for 58 minutes, but in the end, most of the time, the game is decided by which team is best in the final two minutes. It is the teams that can suck it up when they are beaten up and tired that end up being the winners.

Just like football, it’s the final two minutes that determine the winners and the losers at almost everything in life. Everything we do up until that last two minutes just keeps us in the game and gives us a chance to win.

Well, we are in the final two minutes of 2010, and the winners of 2010 will be determined by what we do between now and the end of the year. I know everyone is tired and everyone needs a break, me too, but it’s those few who can dig deep, remain disciplined and push through the pain that will finish up 2010 the winners.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am all for spending time over the holidays with friends and family, I am all for having some fun, but I just see so many people take their foot off the gas at Thanksgiving and coast into the end of the year. And then when January 1st hits, they are at a dead stop. Then it’s really not until the middle or end of January before they are back into “game shape”.

As I said, I am for taking some time off over Thanksgiving, taking some time off over Christmas and taking a couple of days off over New Years, but I am not for taking off the entire 4th quarter of the game. I am up for finishing the game of 2010 strong! This applies to everything in life from our jobs, to our health, to our faith, to our relationships…everything!!!!! The beautiful part is, if you are one of the few who choose to finish the game of 2010 strong, there will be a lot less competition because everyone else will be sleeping, everyone else will be taking the final two minutes off. And because there are a lot less people in the game in the final two minutes of the year, it makes it a lot easier to score.

Have a powerful week and finish 2010 STRONG!!!!!!!


Wednesday Wellness: The Choice is Yours

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This past week I had the incredible opportunity to listen to an interview with Ingrid Betancourt, a Colombian politician who was held hostage in the jungle for over six years.

In 2002 Ms. Betancourt was abducted by the Marxist guerrilla group, the Fuerzas Armadas Revolucionarias de Colombia (FARC); never knowing from day to day if she would be killed, kept hostage or released. Read her story in Harper’s Bazaar.

Can you imagine, even for a moment, what it would be like to have no idea of your destiny or have any control over it? It’s hardly fathomable.

In one of the last comments Ms. Betancourt makes in this article, she says:

It got worse and worse. As it got worse, I decided that I had to learn from my condition. It wasn’t coincidence or mere accident that I was there. I had to give meaning to what I was going through. I decided that I needed to rethink everything about my life. And rethinking my whole life meant rethinking who I was and who I wanted to be. I lost everything — my hopes and future, and even something so basic as being able to talk to somebody or the freedom to go to the bathroom, eating or not eating — but I realized that I still had the most precious of all freedoms: deciding who I wanted to be. And nobody could ever take that from me.”

That last sentence got to me. She’s right, every one of us has a choice of “who” we want to be, how we want to react and what decisions we make each day to spark our happiness, our health, our relationships, everything. Each decision we make is a direct reflection of WHO we are!

If this sparks you, take a hold of who you are, who you emulate, who you represent and resemble and who you want others to see you as! It’s your choice!


Monday Mojo: Act Like You Want It

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If you were the President and CEO of your own company, would YOU pay YOU the kind of money YOU want to make for what YOU did last week?  Would YOU pay YOU what YOU want to make for what YOU are going to do this week?

Everyone wants more, everyone wants a better life, everyone wants to get it faster.  So…what is the difference between those who get what they want, better, faster versus those who don’t? They are in alignment. Their actions each and every day are in alignment with what they want.  And those who don’t get what they want, better, faster are typically all talk. They are not in alignment. They say one thing, but do something completely different.

They want to make a lot of money, but work and act like someone who makes minimum wage.

They want to be fit and healthy, but don’t exercise and eat healthy.  Not only do they not exercise much, but they don’t exercise at all, and not only do they not eat healthy, but they eat like crap.  Fast food, grease, fat, no  fruits and vegetables. They smoke, and drink. Talk about a train wreck waiting to happen.

They want to have a great relationship with their kids, but don’t ever spend quality time with them.  When they are with them they are on the cell phone, computer, watching TV, etc.  Not talking and playing with them, not listening, not going for a bike ride. They tell them “we will do it tomorrow, next week, next month, next year”.  Then, you wake up one day and they are gone, out of the house.

They want to have a great relationship with their spouse, but never spend quality time with him or her. Sure they talk about their bills, the “stuff” they need to do, watch TV in the same room, etc.  But they never actually go on a date and enjoy each other like they once did before the got married, before they had kids. Then before you know it, you don’t know each other anymore and…

It all starts at a very early age.  If we wanted to get A’s in school and not C’s, we had to do the types of things people who get A’s do.  Study our ass off, not wait until the last minute, be disciplined and accountable in our study habits. We had to attend all of our classes and be fully engaged. If we wanted to start on the football team, drill team, chess team – we needed to do and act like a starter.

Well, it does not stop once we graduate high school or college. if we want X, we need to start acting and doing the kinds of things someone who gets X does.

Do you want to know the trick to getting what you want, better, faster? Build a map, then write out detailed right/left directions on how to get where you want to go and then FOLLOW YOUR DIRECTIONS. That map is your plan and the directions is your schedule.  Figure out what it is you need to do (specifically) to get what you want, better, faster. This is your map. Then take that list of stuff and plug it all into your schedule. Don’t just do it for a week or a month, but plug that “stuff” in your schedule for an entire year right up front.  Then when you wake up, open your schedule and DO EXACTLY what it says. Follow the directions. Don’t try a shortcut – remember you spent the time to figure out the detailed directions. The last thing you want to do is get lost trying to take a short cut.  If you make your plan, write out directions, and then follow them NO MATTER WHAT. It will be like magic.  Before you know it you will start getting what you want, better, faster.

So, to get more of what you want, better, faster.  Start acting and doing the things of people who are getting what you want, better, faster.

Make it a GREAT week!


Monday Mojo: My life is in a rut!

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“I’m stuck in a rut…I’m just not happy with where I am in my life.”

We can feel this way about our health, our relationships, our job – we can feel like we are stuck in a rut, good or bad, about anything in life.  So, how do we get out of a bad rut? The bad news is it takes a lot of work to get out of it.  The good news is, when we are in a good rut it’s also hard to get out of it.

The key is to get stuck in as many good ruts as possible. I call them the ruts of life. Look at all aspects of your life – health, family, spirituality, business, financial, etc.  What kind of ruts are you stuck in – good or bad? Are you happy or are you sad, inspired or not inspired, purpose driven or not purpose driven, healthy or unhealthy, motivated or not motivated, have good relationships or bad relationships? I think anyone who tells us “its okay” or “I’m fine” is in a bad rut – they’re just in denial. They just don’t know it and/or don’t want to admit it.

In life we can’t live between the ruts, its just too hard. It’s like trying to balance on a tight rope for your entire life. Eventually you will get tired and fall to one side, so don’t be indecisive. You have to accept the fact you are going to get stuck in one of two ruts – the good one or bad one.  In the book The Purpose Driven Life it say’s “Nothing shapes your life more than the commitments you choose to make.  Your commitments can develop you or they can destroy you, but either way they will define you.”

Let’s make the commitment today to scrape and claw our way out of the bad ruts. Once we are out – fall into the good ruts. There will be short-term pain with getting out, but it will pass and then you will experience the long-term gain of living life in the good ruts.

Get stuck in the good ruts and make it a GREAT week!