A PGA tour player just shoots the best round of his career and when the sports reporter asks him “what was going through your head” after he finishes scorching the golf course with a round of sixty, he says, “I was in the zone… it was effortless… I was relaxed… everything was just going in the hole.”

After winning what many will argue is the most violent non-contact sport in the world, the one hundred meter sprint, the Olympic sprinter when interviewed and asked, “what where you focused on during the race” says just one thing, “relaxing.”

I have a personal trainer who I work out with once a week.  Besides having been in the circus, he was a strength coach for the Stanford University track team and actually coached several Olympic sprinters.  He was the one who told me about the one hundred meter sprinters mindset.

He is not your typical trainer who has you pumping iron until the veins are popping out of your head.  He is about 5’ 7”, 140 pounds, has a limp from a bad hip and he is all about helping you create what he calls a “bigger glass,” opening you up so you can fit more in.

Weird isn’t it?

He tells me I can lift weights and run until I am blue in the face, but for me to continue to improve and get more of what I want, I need to open up my body and mind so I can fit more in.  Because my “glass is full” and if I continue to do what I’ve always done, all I’m going to do is over flow the glass and cease improving.

So, how do you make a “bigger glass?” You guessed it, relax.

Imagine me spending an hour with a guy whose whole goal is to get me to “relax” and not fight so hard to get more of what I want, but to just let it in.  Now, don’t get me wrong, when I am working out with him, it is very intense and I am sweating my ass off, but very rarely do I ever even pick up a weight. He has me stretching, balancing, and breathing so that my body can actually expand.  Because right now it is constricted by my thoughts and how I have tricked my muscles into what they actually can and cannot do.

The same thing applies to your mindset and getting more of what you want in all of the areas of your life. You need to make your “glass bigger.” This is why things like affirmations, meditation, and dream boards are so important.

Over the last few weeks we have discussed creating your passion so that it will pull you towards what you want to attract in your life.  We have talked about having focus and intensity, about speeding up, and about accountability and discipline.

This week I am going to recommend relaxing and letting your passion pull you. Don’t force it or all you are going to do is get pissed off and quit.  The key is not to try harder, but actually take your parking break off. You will find you run smoother and faster without it on.  It is all about creating flow and ease in what we do, being focused on what we want and letting go.  It is like running a one hundred meter sprint or shooting a great round of golf.  The more you “relax,” the faster you go, or the lower your score.  Now don’t get me wrong, you still need to be committed, disciplined, accountable and work your ass off. You need to do your best both personally and professionally to get what you want in life.  What I am saying is just don’t force it.

A big part of not forcing it and taking the parking brake off is changing the thoughts that are going on in your head every day about what you need to do to get what you want in life.  Remove words like – I can’t, I’m not, I won’t, from your self talk. You need to have positive thoughts and words – replace them with words like, I can, I am, and I will.

Have a great week, RELAX, make a “BIGGER GLASS” and don’t forget to take your parking brake off.